Friday, February 7, 2014

Her body, her choice

Houston Texans running back Arian Foster dumped his pregnant mistress, and she’s suing him.

In the old days, to avoid public embarrassment, Foster’s responsibility in the affair would have been implicit. He would have married Norwood or put her up in comfortable lodgings and made sure the child—half his, after all—was provided for.

The rules have changed.

This is the pro-choice movement’s “gift” to women: putting responsibility for childbearing squarely on her shoulders. Whatever she chooses, independent of considerations outside her will, society stands behind.

Men are happy to play along, as it gives legitimacy to their drive to consummate with the pretty objects of their lust, to end their involvement from the word “go.” Consistent with the logic of “her body, her choice,” after coitus he leaves the decisions to her.

The promise was sex without consequences, but it has more effectively delivered on single motherhood. Despite the airtight control reproductive technologies give women over their wombs, they “accidentally” keep getting pregnant, and—even more baffling—wanting to have babies!

Whatever precautions Norwood did or didn’t take, Foster assumed she alone would deal with the consequences. Except for child support payments, she will.

The unfortunate child of the liaison will grow up without its father. According to Patrick Fagan, a child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse than is a child living with married biological parents. A child whose mother cohabits with a man other than the child’s father is 33 times more likely to suffer serious physical child abuse.

Norwood will be fortunate to find a good man to volunteer for the job. Normally her beauty would give her a leg up against most of her competitors in the sexual marketplace. It certainly gave her a leg up in snagging multimillionaire Arian Foster. But, if she’s learned her lesson, she won’t put out again until she’s married, which puts her at a disadvantage. Few men will accept fatherhood before having marital relations, especially in a sexual marketplace in which they can have marital relations without bothering with fatherhood or marriage.

Now ask yourself who the winners in the sexual revolution are.

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